Dear Miley Cyrus,
I would have hoped your mom would have shared
these thoughts with you. I should give her the benefit of the doubt
though, and believe that she tried. That would be the right thing to to
do. It is quite possible, given your young age, this is just another
early adult rebellion. Trust me, I understand. We all have a
rebellious streak and even in our later years it still shows up. So if
that is the case and you have just chosen not to listen to an older and
wiser person, then please let me share a few things. I feel like with
celebrities such as yourself there is an unspoken yet very real
responsibility that you have to the youngsters out there. Your
responsibility lies in not only entertaining them, as you have chosen to
do, but to teach them appropriate behavior. It saddens me that this
responsibility gets overshadowed by the horizon of success and money.
It saddens me even more that what you (and many like you) are teaching
is a shallow, self-esteem breaking, and false reality. Especially for
the young girls who look up to you. What are they learning? They are
learning that dressing half naked, thrusting your sexuality for all of
the world to see, is what gets you deserved attention. They are
learning that it does not matter what your actions are as long as
someone is watching and paying attention. What we need in our society
are strong, independent, powerful women who feel good about themselves.
We need the people who have a responsibility to teach this to them to
step up to the plate and do it right. We need our young girls to feel
good about themselves. We need them to understand that trying to
attract a mate with half naked bodies and provocative behavior is not
acceptable. The kind of mate that you will attract by swinging naked on
a wrecking ball will most likely not be the mate who will sit with you
while you are ill, hold you when you cry or even cry with you. It will
not be the mate who will help you paddle to shore when your life boat is
slowly sinking and be there for the long haul of life's ups and downs.
Also, the young males who watch this and believe that this is how women
are supposed to behave have a very rude awakening in their future. Some
things are better left for private situations. It does not matter to me
if you set up a full circus trapeze in your home and swing naked from
every contraption. That is your business. It scares me, though, that
the young girls watching you believe that to be sexy you must wear
little or no clothes at all and flaunt your sexuality. Honey, listen,
sexiness is a power from within, an energy lit by self awareness, self
love and self acceptance. It has very little to do with your choice of
clothes. Trust me, any woman who knows how to be sexy can bring a room
full of men (or women) to their knees wearing a turtle neck and slacks.
Sexiness is self confidence and an attitude. It is not wagging your
tongue (literally) and sexually molesting a man on a stage in front of
the world.
I don't mean to single you out. There are many more
celebrities out there who need to take full responsibility for their
actions and understand the responsibility they have to our younger
generations.
You are a beautiful young lady. I'm not sure where
along the way you lost this belief in yourself. Possibly from watching
the ones who have gone before you that behaved in much the same manner.
What I wish for you and the ones to come after you, is that you realize
how powerful you are. You have the power to actually change the lives
of so many young girls. My prayer is that you choose to change their
lives for the better. And yours too.
Sincerely,
Deb Fisher
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